Understand the reasons of emotional infidelity
When an emotional connection or rapport is achieved between two persons who already have a relationship with someone else, we are talking about emotional infidelity.
Although people involved in such affairs insist that such emotional rapport is not a threat to their relationship, the truth is that regardless what they think, at the end lasting relationships are forged from sentimental affinity. Therefore having such connection with someone else means that their current relationship is in great danger and that a new relationship is being shaped.
An emotional connection is easily achieved when intense work or a problem is solved together by the persons involved, even if there is more people involved or they are part of a larger team.
When your wife is involved in emotional infidelity, usually she behaves like a teen in love, leaving important activities or missing obligations to assign time to the activity where she meets her emotional infidelity mate.
A unjustified increase in time working at her office or wherever they meet, only means that she love to spend time together and she sacrifice other important things in her life to get together, like her own family.
The common defense against emotional infidelity accusations is that they are only friends and that nothing is happening between them. Most of the time, when the emotional relation has not evolved into cheating, such affirmation is true but sometimes that could be the beginning of a romantic relationship.
Therefore, the real danger of an emotional infidelity is not such relationship itself, but the menace that it can be the spark of real romantic affair.
Recognizing when emotional infidelity is becoming dangerous, is a matter of noticing when your wife doesn’t know anymore where to draw the line completely ignoring other aspects of her life, like family, kids, self care, etc.
It is very important when dealing with emotional infidelity avoid being jealous with your partner because that will develop an even stronger bond with her emotional infidelity mate. Additionally, these accusations will bring into the equation that they talk seriously about their feelings for each other. So don’t be jealous, that will only make you loose your wife.
The real danger of an emotional infidelity
is not such relationship itself, but the danger that it can be the spark of a real romantic affair.
Have the Courage to Stop Emotional Infidelity
Emotional infidelity on most occasions comes as a reaction to tedious real life activities as couple, like raising children, paying bills, etc. So avoid making these activities the focal point of your life, don’t forget about fun and good times, even once in a while.
If you notice that your wife is involved in emotional infidelity, try making her aware of what she is doing and what is she putting on risk, without making a scene and without behaving jealousy as I said before. Only a clear, non-aggressive, non-emotional and very reasoned exposition, advising her where is she directing and the consequences of it.
If you get an aggressive, very emotional response, it is probable that it is time to start looking for the signs of infidelity, which I described in previous articles as emotional infidelity might have already evolved into a romantic affair. Don’t take this as a rule, check first about cheating before making any accusation.
One major risk of wife emotional infidelity is that people involved do not feel guilty as they have not done anything wrong, yet. Therefore, blaming or unnecessarily attacking them will have very unwilling results.